How To Be Positive

There was a time in my life when I felt that everything happening were against me and the odds were not in my favour. I was asking myself what have I been doing wrong or if I have done something bad to other people and maybe this is just the universe getting back at me. And then I realised I was being pessimistic. I was so focused on looking at the negative things that I was attracting more of it therefore resulting in more unfavourable things happening to me.

jon hamm.gif“If you knew how powerful your thoughts are, you would never think a negative thought.” -Peace Pilgrim

And so one day, I decided to make a change. There was a light bulb. I searched online, I read books, I watched Youtube videos, I followed great people on Instagram and then promised myself I would try to be better and see the good in every little thing. I’ve listed below the things that I did and I currently live by to be positive or stay positive and attract the good in my life. light bulb.gif

1. Set goals. It doesn’t matter how big or small, the most important thing is to start. Do you want to be in shape? Do you want to start your own company? Do you want to join a club? Do you want to start a website? Or maybe you just want to make time to see your friends. Whatever it is, you have to pursue that goal and the only way to do that is to set a target date and just do whatever it takes to achieve that goal. Sometimes we love to stay in our comfort zone so much that we are not willing to try new things. Whenever you think about not doing anything to change your current situation, remember the quote from the famous Lao Tzu, “The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step”lopez.gif


2. Surround yourself with positive people and avoid negative influences. You might have heard this a thousand times before. My grade school teacher would always mention the saying “Tell me who your friends are and I’ll tell you who you are”. It’s true, because you are the average of the five people you spend the most time with so you subconsciously imitate them, what they do and what they say without you knowing it. When I say avoid negative influences, I mean avoid the gossipers. No matter what they say and no matter how juicy the gossip is, don’t fall for it. Whoever gossips to you, will gossip about you.” Avoid them at all costs. I once had a co-worker who would just send me a chat and tell me a gossip about another co-worker. What I do is I just say OK and then change the subject. When you do that, it stops there. No time wasted, no friend betrayed. 

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3. Reframe and accept negative experiences. It’s inevitable. It can and it will happen to anyone. Life is one big obstacle course and you won’t finish it unscathed. Everyday we are faced with challenges and when you fail at one doesn’t mean you will not try again. A baby who’s learning to walk and failed a hundred times doesn’t say “This is not for me”. Even in an interview when you’re asked, “What is your greatest weakness?” The best way to answer this is to state something you’re not good at and then turn it into a positive by telling them the steps on how you’re working hard on getting better, and mention that you’re still working at becoming even better at whatever this skill is. I’d like to think a negative experience is one way of reminding us to be grateful for the things that went right. baby gangnam.gif

4. Be grateful. Most of the time we take things for granted. When we leave in the morning and arrive in the office safely, when the office help cleans our desks, when we can listen to a new song from our favourite artist, when our families are all well, our health, our jobs, the money in the bank, the computer, the internet, your mobile phone, and when you go home, the bed that you sleep in, the safety and security, the moon and the stars, the electricity, the air conditioning and so on and so forth. It’s so easy to focus on the things we don’t have rather than appreciating the things that we do have. I am grateful that the things that I were just praying for before, most of them I already have now. drake thanks.gif

5. Do the things you love. What do you love doing the most? Is it travelling? Watching movies? Long drives? Swimming at the beach? Listening to music? Whatever it is, do more of it. Because when you do things that you love and pair it with the things that you normally do, you will be more productive, you will be motivated and you will push yourself to succeed even more. For me, I like listening to music every minute, every second of the day. I was told that when I was in my mom’s womb, she would let me listen to classical music and maybe that’s the reason why I am fond of listening to music now. At the office, I have my earphones on all the time because it helps me focus and I become more efficient.selena.gif

6. Be Kind. Easier said than done but here’s a true story. On the day I decided to be more positive, I went to the mall to buy something. At the parking area, all the spaces were taken and just when I was about to leave, a lady walked towards me and signalled that she is leaving and that I could take her spot. I thought to myself, “wow, she is very kind”. And after that as I was on my way out, a taxi driver signalled I could go ahead in front of him on a busy street and I was like, “what’s happening today?” And then when I went to the office and parked outside, the guard told me that I should park inside because it’s hot out and he would let me in even if I didn’t have a card. There were more instances where I felt like I’m in another planet where every one is kind to one another. Bottomline, be kind. Be kind not because it’s good for you or you’re reciprocating what others have done for you but be kind for no reason at all. And in the words of Princess Diana, “Carry out a random act of kindness, with no expectation of reward, safe in the knowledge that one day someone might do the same for you.”stranger.gif

To conclude, being positive is just basically choosing to look at the brighter side of life. It doesn’t mean that everything is perfect because it never is but it’s looking forward to the rainbow after the rain. Negative experiences and problems are a way of life but it’s up to you how you overcome them. They are there to challenge you and to make you a better person than you ever was before. Positivity is seeing the good in everyone even if we can barely see it. And lastly, positivity begins with a smile even a forced one and a hope that whatever you’re going through right now will change for the better.  kanye.gif

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    • Thanks! I do not possess positivity organically, rather I come by it with a great deal of effort. I could lay blame on my parents modeling (yes, they were negative) my DNA (it seems there is a genetic predisposition) or on the bad habit I have established. Reality is, it’s up to me. I am working on it.

  1. An absolutely excellent post. I am so glad I clicked on your gravitar! Thank you for sharing these positive insights. I popped by because you’d liked one of my posts.

  2. Mark, these are very wise truths to live by. Your life will be blessed with peace–and more abundance than you can imagine if you keep practicing these beliefs. Thank you for following my blog On a Journey.

  3. Hi Mark, thanks for visiting and following my blog. I’ve got one more to add to your list. Find the joy in the negative. There is always a positive coming out of the worst negative and you just have to find out what it is. It doesn’t relieve the pain, but it helps to understand and to move on. There is joy, you just have to find it.Keep writing.

  4. Gratitude and Kindness are two such powerful qualities to have and utilise. I like the positive focus of your blog. good luck with it and welcome to my blogging world 🙂

  5. Great post. You really nailed it, Mark.

    I consider myself a positive person and my goal is to try and make other people’s day a little brighter. One of the ways I do this is with my humor blog. I also try to be encouraging and supportive of others. We never know what trials they may be going through.

  6. Hey there,

    These statements are so very true. They are also much easier to follow when life is not kicking one in the teeth. I use most of them and they become a habit after awhile. I don’t have to think about it anymore but just do. Some I trip over and find it a real challenge to use them especially when life looks very bad. It will take practice to become fluent in all the statements.

    Thanks my friend.

    Jean

    • I agree with everything you said and most of the time these statements are easier said than done. And yes, it takes practice and soon it will be your norm and you can for sure dodge any negative situation that comes your way. 😊

  7. Mark, I absolutely love this post. So true!! Great advice. I also find when I focus on an attitude of gratitude, my mental and emotional health is so much better that day!!
    When I’m kind, others are more kind. When I smile, people smile back.
    God is love, when I love, I’m being more Christlike.
    Thanks for the follow!

  8. I agree with a lot of the points you made in this post. I also used to feel negative and alienated, as if I had to combat the world. I felt let down by people until I realized that it was my distrust that put them off. All because of some things that happened in the past a long time ago.

    Being kind, honest and goal oriented is something I’ve learned in Japan during an extended stay there. My life has improved significantly. If you are optimistic and kind to others, they will resonate with you as well.

    It is us who have to make the first step, the world won’t change for us. A positive outlook changes your perception significantly!

  9. Great post with excellent advice!! You are so right, if you concentrate on the positive you will attract more of it into your life!! Keeping the negativity at bay is a constant exercise but the more we exercise our positive thoughts the stronger we will get!! Enjoy the journey… 🙂

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