Social Media like everything in the world can be a good or bad thing. It’s good because you can connect with your friends and loved ones and it enables you to share those precious moments. It’s bad when you become obsessed and you forget the little things that matter because of the amount of time you spend on it. It’s useful but it should not be the end-all be-all of your very existence.
A lot has been said about the excessive use of social media. There have been infomercials, friendly reminders and even memes to remind people to actually engage in meaningful conversations in real life than be active but trapped inside their phones and computers.
Some of us think that as humans, a necessity in our daily lives is the attention given and the pat on the back by other people, be it our boss, our parents or our friends. We have this craving to get as much likes as possible when we post something online. We are attention seekers and it’s as if our value increases as we get more likes and we question our worth as a person when people don’t like our pictures. Sometimes, we even get to the point of deleting a picture because it didn’t get the ‘required’ number of likes that we want.
If you’re one of those people who think like that, let me tell you this. You are not the number of likes that you have on Facebook or Twitter or Instagram. Your worth is not determined by the heart and the thumbs up signs that you receive on each post. Some people, especially the ones who don’t really like you will never in a million years like whatever you upload online. You may take a selfie with Barack Obama or the Pope and that will never warrant a thumbs up from them. And you should be ok with that.
On the other hand, there are your true friends who will like whatever you post regardless if it’s a good or bad picture. Remember those friends, they are the real ones. So continue to post those memorable moments regardless if your connections will care or not. At the end of the day, they chose to be friends with you and you also have the choice to delete them. Social media should be fun, not complicated.
“Don’t be bothered, it’s not you, it’s them”. Do not take the social media game too seriously. Who knows, you might just be another picture or a funny post that your friends liked as they were scrolling through their feed. It might not matter to them but it’s a big deal for you.
Having a few hundred more likes than your friend won’t make you any better than them. It’s not a competition and there is no prize. Social media has brainwashed us into thinking that less likes and comments on your posts equate to being sad and lonely. The truth is, we don’t need that validation and having less likes doesn’t mean your self-worth decreases. In the end, you know who you are, what fun you had before posting that picture and no number of likes can ever replace that.
To conclude, I like social media, I love social media and I might be one of those people who are obsessed with their phones and might actually have nomophobia. But no, I still love good old fashioned conversations, the significant ones where you leave feeling like a renewed person simply because you learned a lot from talking to someone. What I have realized now is that having hundreds of likes or followers on Instagram or Facebook or Twitter is like being a millionaire in Monopoly, the money is useless and it means nothing.
So just a friendly reminder whenever you feel down because your post didn’t get as much likes as you wanted, your worth is not defined by the number of likes or the number of followers that you have. Your value as a person increases when you do good to others and they like you in real life. And whenever you need an honest opinion about yourself and you want to take it to social media to reconfirm and seek approval, ask your friends and families instead. Not only will you get an honest opinion, you will also get the right kind of affirmation because they will like you no matter what (no edits and no filters) and that I believe is the best kind of ‘like’ in the world.